How to find out if Your Girlfriend is Cheating on You

Having a doubt that your girlfriend is cheating on youis heartbreaking enough.

But to have to find out if your doubts are true or not and in turn face your worst fear is nightmarish. Nonetheless, if you’ve got doubts then it’s best to address them and clear your mind. This is how you can find out if your girlfriend is cheating on you or not.

1. Observe

If she is distant, withdrawn, constantly cancelling plans, and appears not interested in what you have to say or do, then chances are something is up. Observation is the key to finding out what is going on. This does not mean you go paranoid and let your suspicions get out of hand. Don’t read too much into things and take her behaviour for what it actually is.

2. Talk to her close friends

Another alternative is to talk to her close friends; provided you are on talking terms with him/her. Don’t pounce on the friend; call them and ask them if they genuinely know what is happening and if they have any idea what is bothering your girlfriend. Try to coax information out of them and see where that leads.

3. Phone check

How many cheating men and women have been caught thanks to phone records that gave up on them. When you get a chance, look through her phone and you might just get the proof.

4. Confront

This is the sure shot way to find out what is going on. Confront her, coax her to talk about it and get information out of her. You will know the 100% truth only when she talks. So you got to ensure she does.

Use these ways to know if your girlfriend is actually cheating on you or if it’s all in your head. 

Top 7 breakup songs

To be honest, it is not possible to shortlist only seven favourite breakup songs. For bad or worse, there are aplenty breakup songs that speak to your misery and give wings to your sorrow. These painfully touching tunes promise to be your best friend when you are nursing a broken heart () and trying your best to get over your lost love. We have listed songs that we think will not only give voice to your pain but also in some way comfort you.

1. Bin Tere – I Hate Love Stories
Bin tere sung by Shafqat Amanat Ali and Sunidhi Chauhan is one song that will bring back memories of fond times and make you rethink your decision to breakup. The words will stay with you long after the song is over and you are sure to be left dewy eyed thinking about those love filled days.

2.Tu Jaane Na – Ajab Prem ki Gajab Kahani

This is one of our favourite breakup songs. Kailesh Kher’s piercing and soulful voice, coupled with heartfelt lyrics is what set this song apart. The lover’s agony over not being able to win his love is so apparent in this song that it makes our heart bleed. Listen to this song and mourn over your lost love.

3. Tanhai – Dil Chahta Hai

Sonu Nigam has never since sounded this appealing. Tanhai is the anthem of every person going through a breakup. The music, the melody, the voice, the ache of the heart, are all felt too closely when listening to this song. Your breakup is not really lived till you set off on a long walk to nowhere and cry your heart out while listening to this song.

4. No Air – Chris Brown and Jordin Sparks

“If I should die before I wake
It's cause you took my breath away
Losing you is like living in a world with no air
Oh”

With lyrics like these, we don’t need to explain further why this one is a break up song that can be played on loop.

5. Ya Rabba – Salaam-E-Ishq

Kailash Kher is the God of poignant and emotional singing and he does full justice to the lyrics penned by Sameer. Ya Rabba is every heartbroken soul best friend. Tears will flow down your cheeks and your heart will be ripped apart with pain on hearing this rendition.

6. Tadap Tadap – Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam

Everything about this movie is perfect including this song of separation.


"Tadap Tadapke Is Dil Se Aah Nikalti Rahi Hai


Mujhko Saza Di Pyaar Ki Aisa Kya Gunaah Kiya


To Lut Gaye Haan Lut Gaye"


Seriously, can it get anymore sad and heartfelt?

7. Someone Like You – Adele

She is the queen of heartbreak. Adele’s song is understated, emotional, distressing and is sure to ensure you wallow in your grief till your hear just cannot take it anymore.

Why love is actually a 'drug'

London, Feb 14 (ANI): It is often believed that 'love is a drug'' and now a new research has confirmed that romance really does work in a similar manner as addiction to illegal substances and activates a reaction in the same part of the brain.

Those smitten will produce an emotional response in the part of the grey matter usually involved withmotivation and reward.

Our brains have been hardwired to choose a mate, and we become so motivated to win them over that we are sometimes willing to go to extreme lengths, the Daily Mail reported.

The reward comes by identifying that something feels good and is worth the effort.

"You can feel happy when you're in love, but you can also feel anxious," said Lucy Brown, a neuroscientist at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York.

Professor Brown insisted that the reward part of the brain or pleasure centre is vital for our survival as this drives the need to have sex.

"Intense passionate love uses the same system in the brain that gets activated when a person is addicted to drugs," co-author Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, said.

Their study looked at magnetic resonance images of the brains of 10 women and seven men who claimed that they were deeply in love.

The length of their relationships ranged from one month to less than two years.

Participants were shown photographs of their loved one, and photos of a similar-looking person.

It found that romantic love is one of the most powerful emotions a person can have.

They also divulged that the length of time couples were together made little difference to the intensity of their feelings.

The researchers discovered that in each of these long-term lovers, brain regions were also stimulated when they looked at photos of their partners.

Long-term love showed activity in the regions associated with attachment and liking a reward.

"For most people, the standard pattern is a slow decline in passionate love but a growth in bonding,"Dr Aron said.

"As long as love remains, we get used to the relationship, and we're not afraid our partner will leave us, so we're not as focused on the craving," Dr Aron added. (ANI)

Lies that most of the romantic novels tell!

All those who are fond of reading theromantic novels must have got hold of the similarity in the usage of certain lines, which stands to be common in almost all the romantic fictions. 

Want to know what they are, just read on:  

1. Happy ending
This might not be the case in real life, the story might talk of the couple living happily ever after but reality can be far different.

2. It’s all about a tall, dark and handsome dude
Give it a break, does love only calls for physical attraction. We think the writers must now get over this age old way of describing the hero.

3. Grand expensive gestures to express love
You don't always need expensive declarations of love to know that someone cares for you. 

4. Relations are easy to handle
We wonder how this can ever be possible on earth! Relations are the most difficult to be handled.  

5. Follow your heart
Listening what your heart says is good but ignoring the thoughtful mind is not the right way of dealing with life.   

6. Drug addicts, abusers, alcoholics, skirt chasers can all be reformed with love
People do change but the ratio stands to be quite less. Taking on the responsibility of an addict or alcoholic demands a lot from you as a person! So, just don’t get fascinated by reading that people like them can be reformed with love.

Next time you get hold of a romantic novel, make sure to read between the lines!

Top 10 proven signs she's interested

So, you have been trying to guess for some time now, your gut feeling says that yes, she is definitely into you but your mind suggests that you shouldn’t proceed unless you are a bit more sure. When faced with the predicament of finding out whether she is actually interested in you or not, check-out the following signs:

1. She Makes Suggestive Eye Contact

Eye contact or ‘eye play’ as it is referred to by many people, is perhaps the most suggestive and confirmative of all signs. If her eye contact with you is devoid of too many blinks, if she doesn’t hesitate to stare back at you and if you find her trying to make eye contact with you even from a distance, you have definitely managed to impress her in some way.

 2. She Keeps Suggesting Catching A Cup Of Coffee Together

Asking out a lady for a cup of coffee remains the most formal and accepted forms of initiating the process of getting familiar with the fairer sex, helping to establish if the liking is mutual. Once a male bastion, girls are open to asking out men for coffee these days and if she has asked you out repeatedly, she is indirectly hinting that she enjoys your company and wants you to take the next step.

3. She Keeps Getting Closer When Being Distant Is An Option

Have you have noticed that even during formal conversation and in circumstances when physical proximity wasn’t needed, she seemed unusually close to you? She might change her seat during a meeting or lunch to be seated next to you or might repeatedly shake hands with you for casual congratulations or lean over your desk when having a conversation, when standing upright seemed feasible. These are sure signs of her growing interest in you.

4. She Seems To Have A Regular Schedule For You

Trying to think of the last few days—if it seems that she has created a pattern that includes wishing your good morning and the evening goodbye with a big smile, messaging you goodnight, emailing you happy quotes or jokes and being curious about what you had for lunch, it suggests that she has put some thought into ensuring that you are reminded about her presence throughout the day.

5. Her Availability Is Never An Issue

Either at her desk, at the gym or even during a late-night call, it seems that she always has time for you. Even if her phone is busy, she makes it a point to call you back immediately. Even if she seems overloaded with work, she makes a point to exchange pleasantries with you or ask about your day.

6. She Molds Conversations Towards Opportunities Of Companionship

If conversations with her have been lately carrying subtle hints about going out together, exploring new eating joints or doing a combo purchase on that new online deal, it is highly suggestive that she is seeking your company or is at least, indicating that she enjoys your presence—whether in a platonic manner or romantic, you need to scrape further.

7. She Is Ready To Counsel You

If it seems that she is always there trying to help you or counsel you over the smallest issue you might have told her about, chances of her being interfering or over-friendly also arise but it is also possible that she is trying to show her interest in your life. If she seems genuinely interested and constantly takes updates about your problems, it is most likely she cares for you in some capacity.

8. Some Openly Flirtatious Gestures

Occasionally, licking or biting her lips in a slightly seductive manner when you guys are talking and teasing you about your purely bachelor status are gestures that you have ignited some degree of liking for you within her. If her seemingly innocent smiles have been getting more frequent and she has been forwarding you naughty SMSs regularly, it is time you asked her out. If some of the most dependable female traits are decoded in terms of their flirtatious intent, then the tendency of a lady to repeatedly flick her hair or run her fingers through her mane is perhaps the most established signs of her seductive tendencies taking over.

9. She Has Been Probing You

If you find out that she has been trying to keep a tab on you, finding more about your personal and professional life from acquaintances or getting too curious on Facebook, it is a definite sign that is genuinely interested in you.

10. She Despises Other Women Near You

Call it jealously or possessiveness, but most women are vulnerable to openly displaying their disgust for their men being poached upon by other women, even those whom you have declared as your friend or an office sister. If you see her frowning or getting upset whenever you get too pally with your female office mates, you can assume that she thinks of you two together in some way

Know the little things that matter a lot in a relation!

Often you may have come across some silly reasons which tend to put an end to any relation. Say for example, you must have heard a girl cribbing about her beau not being caring enough, or he not being a confidant; the list may just go on!

The things which sound small to you happen to be the big trouble creators in any relation. Short and sweet is a phrase which happens to be the mantra of handling a relation perfectly. Expensive gifts or cozy dates just don’t work the right way.  If you want to know what are these small and sweet gestures then just read on and try to employ them soon:      

1. Acknowledgment
Here we doesn’t mean you have to be wait for your partner do something out of the way to make you acknowledge her. In fact, a sweet thank you when she brings in your morning tea or helps you in getting ready for the office will leave a great impact.  

2. Be a confidante
Make sure to lend your ears to her always, if you can prove to be a confidante to her then she will not only get closer to you but this will even help in strengthening your bond. 

3. Remember dates
Now this one is of extreme importance, remembering the dates is very essential. Whether it is her birthday, your anniversary or anything important for that matter, make a note of it and never let the dates slip off your mind.

Know how to handle the insecurities of your girlfriend!

Dealing with the insecurities of a girlfriend is not at all an easy task. Handling an insecure girlfriend is sure to wreck havoc on your emotional and mental health.

Most of the time people either think of breaking up with such insecure girlfriends or deal with the insecurities head on. However, there is always a solution and if handled properly you can deal with it easily. Here we have some ways by which you can bring the security and trust back in your relation:

1. Know the problem in an out
The first step requires you to get into the skin of the problem and see as to why she is being so insecure. Once you get to know of the root cause behind, you can try out things to sort out the issues.

2. Do not simply give in
No matter what, never let her insecurities to dictate you. Remember if you give it up once, it will become a regular practice.   

3. Don’t ignore or mock her
You are sure to get frustrated because of her constant insecurities, which will apparently make you ignore her or mock at her before friends. Never disregard her this way, respect her nature and till the time you don’t get to any solution better don’t let anyone intervene between you.

Follow these ways and get rid of the insecurities that haunt your lady love!

Delight your girl planning a wonderful date with her!

Planning a date is not the only thing necessary to delight your partner but it is necessary to plan it in a right way so that it turns out as the memorable and wonderful experience for your girl.

Here is how you can go about Planning the Perfect Night – Out with your Girlfriend.

Take her for a long drive: This one is a favourite of many. Go on a long drive one evening. Revel in one another’s company, enjoy the cool breeze and play some light music to set the mood. This simple yet soulful date will be one you’ll always cherish.

Dinner & Dirty Dancing & Role Play: There is nothing more hot than dancing close & dirty. Get a huge adrenaline rush on the dance floor and follow it up with a ride back home together.

Movie night: Set up a Movie-Date at home. Wrap your arms around one another and awaken the romance in your relationship with the help of some classic on-screen romances. 

Walk & Talk: The weather is just perfect to do anything outdoors; not too hot, and just rightly cool. So go out after hours for a walk and talk; talk life, movies, weather – anything and everything. 

Remember, not all perfect dates are about how expensive they are; most of the times th

Explore the reasons as to why girls delay marriages!

India and Indian culture is almost loved by everyone. People love to explore India and wonder how Indians carry values andrelations so beautifully and gracefully. But with the time, things are changing slowly and now one can see a big difference between the ancient and modern India.

One thing which has strikingly taken a ‘U’ is the situation of girls. Now Indian girls are completely independent. In fact as per a survey it is found that now girls want to take their full time before getting married. The reasons are various but one common thing which promotes is that getting married is not the only goal of their life.

A primary and common reason is financial independence. Banker Joyeeta Sen says, “Financial independence is something that women in the earlier generations have craved for. We are able to experience it. It doesn't just change your perception about yourself, but also the way people look at you. Times have changed today. Marriage is not the only thing on a girl's mind. I see marriages break everyday and that's not a pleasant thing.”

Besides children, parents have also changed their mind sets with time. Parents also find their happiness if their daughter is independent and holds all the guts to face this world and society. 

So those who are still sticking with old mind sets should have a look over changing scenario. 

Know the best colors to be worn on a date by men!

Most men want to look perfect on their first date or on every date. And what’s best than donning a color which can express one’s personality. Yes colors are the best to express you and your taste. So look at the right colors to wear on a date.

Red
Usually most men are tagged as color blind. Yes this is the fact. But there are some specific colors which reflect your persona. Red is by far, the boldest, challenging and in-your-face colour. It reflects your confidence, passion, excitement, love and even lust. A well fitted navy blue jeans with a bright red shirt is the best pair to be donned on a date.

Black & White 
Black and white are the basic colors but are very powerful in impressing anyone. These are considered as fasten colors to be worn on a date. But you cannot go for a complete black or a complete white pair. When in doubt what to wear, these colours can be a safe bet.

Blue
Blue goes well over a man. It depicts how confident and manly you are. In fact as per various studies, women love man in blue. Blue emanates a feeling of calmness, peace and loyalty – which every woman wants to see in her man.

So have a look over your color before going for a date.

5 ways to find the perfect man

Ditch the perfume

Although smelling like flowers, honey and all things fruity is great, have you ever thought what it’s doing for your love life? One US study rounded up a group of brave guys and asked them to sniff some ladies T-shirts. The study found that men’s testosterone levels shot up when they smelt the T-shirt of ovulating women. So, if you douse yourself in heavy scent throughout the month, maybe ditch it for a few days when you’re halfway through your cycle. Your natural smell will work in its place. If you really hate the thought of going out without a dab or two, you could always use the body wash version of your perfume. That way the smell is still mild enough not to put off horny guys, but you’ve got the smell you love.

Look at your dad

We don’t blame you if you feel a little freaked out when we say look at your dad. We know that your dad is never going to feature highly on your ‘To-Date List’ (at least we hope not girls!). However, it turns out that Freud may have got it right all those years ago when he suggested we’re all looking for someone like our parents. Apparently, when we meet people, we are naturally drawn to those that look and smell like our parents. Psychotherapist Elayne Savage says familiarity is one of the main reasons why people choose a parent-like partner.  So, if you’re scouting for the perfect man, we suggest you take a trip home first to take a look at what you need to be searching for.

Hold on to him

Some people have no trouble finding a man, but when it comes to the more serious post-infatuation stage something goes wrong. If that sounds familiar, it may be due to your chemical biology. When we fall in love there are three main chemical phases. First comes lust (which is driven by testosterone and estrogen), then comes attraction (a stage instigated by neuro-transmitters called monomamines), then comes the attachment phase. The key hormone in the attachment phase is oxytocin.  Oxytocin promotes bonding in adults and it is released when adults are being intimate. It is thought that the more sex a couple has the deeper the bond. So, maybe a night or two more under the covers will help you stay strong with the next guy.

Go shopping

When you’re single people always tell you to “get out there”. You’re told to get involved in things you never normally would, like walking clubs, craft sessions or language classes. Although it is good to meet new people, do you really want to find the man of your dreams whilst you’re wearing hiking socks? We thought not. The message behind this advice is good though; you need to meet guys in order to find one. However, we suggest you keep to your normal routine and just be more aware of who is around you. Food shopping is the perfect place to meet lots of different men, and you can tell an awful lot about their life by looking inside their trolleys – if they’ve got two types of hair conditioner then walk on by.

Look in the mirror

It may sound odd, but looking in the mirror is the perfect way to find your ideal man. Studies have found that married couples tend to look quite similar. So, have a good hard look at your own facial features so that when you’re next out you can target those men that look like you. Those couples who do look like one another have also been found to have lower cases of child abuse in their families and are less selfish.  However, studies have also found that couples not only have similar facial features, other parts of their bodies correlate too. Researchers found that many married couples had similar: metabolic rates, ear lobe lengths, ear size, neck circumferences and middle finger lengths. Get out those tape measures girls, it’s time to pull.